You Were Created to be One

Husbands and Wives: you were created to be one.

That is the way God created you and that is how you should be. So, why does it sometimes seem that you are very far from that ideal? Intimacy can suffer when we move away from our state ordained by God, and don’t draw together the image with which God created us; because he created us with a vision.

God made us man and woman with a dream per se. God has a Dream for us. We get married because we also have a dream for our lives but then-we get angry and want to leave our spouses sites, we insult and mistreat each other, we forget the beautiful things and we only see the ugly, even the physical attraction is lost, and often to serve the Lord comes first than serving our partners (but it is just an excuse to avoid being intimate) or not serving the Lord comes as an excuse because there is no privacy (no intimate connection) there is no one-on-one, or there is emotional abandonment.

Often, when we hear the words “intimacy” and “marriage”, we think that the conversation will be about sex. And yes, sex is important to build intimacy! But it is not the only aspect of true marital intimacy.

Over the next few days, embrace each other and accept the scriptures that you read as you learn more about how to deepen your intimacy on your path to a healthier and stronger marriage so that you can also fight with everything that comes over your home and your way.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam[a] no suitable helper was found.  So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[b] and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[c] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

The man said, “This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

   Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:18-25 NIV)

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis+2%3A18-25&version=NIV

And from the rib of the man GOD himself brought out a woman, not to be less, or to be second, NOR to be more (that’s why the woman likes to be pampered) but also to be of appropriate help; help in everything possible.

See God’s plan was for man to take care of his woman and see her as help for him as well, to see her as equally and know that she was part of him and remember Him (God) at all times through her. Many times while we sleep God is working and taking from our being and depositing in the person He has chosen for our lives to take care of us His way, yet Eve ate the forbidden fruit it may not seem like she helped Adam much there huh, it actually looks like she got him in trouble-but it was Adam’s job to take care of her, she was supposed to help. Kinda’ like “one hand washes the other”, yeah you’re getting it.

God did not dedicate himself to look for guilty ones here, they hid themselves because of their own shame, he called them to come out of their hidden place. He told them to stop hiding. I ask you today are you hiding your marriage because of shame?

He could have finished with them or separated them right then and there. But instead (being God of course) He decided to leave them together (awesome sauce) because he united them until the end of their lives and so together they had to figure out a way to take care of one another, help each other and do life. They had to understand and fix their differences, but they also had to do it with the help of God.

Therefore, as long as there is no infidelity, no physical abuse, no irreparable spiritual corruption (and it goes without saying that with God and forgiveness everything is possible), marriage should not be broken even the intimate union for any weak reason.

You have to fight every day, look for new goals, new strategies, innovate ideas, and try to keep the flame of love burning at all times.

 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’[a] ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] and the two will become one flesh.’[c] So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (S. Mark 10: 6-9 NIV)

God bless you,

Denise Kilby


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