Freedom is Found in Forgiveness

The freedom that provides victory is rooted in forgiveness Luke 23:34 and nailed through the bones.

  • Is found in forgiving oneself
  • In the forgiveness of others
  • In asking for forgiveness for others even when they don’t ask for it or understand the meaning of it
  • In understanding that forgiveness is not for others but rather for oneself

Keep the following 4 key points in mind:

  1. Forgiveness does not always mean recovery or reconciliation unless it is self-forgiveness.
  2. For a person to be truly victorious and not become a victim the person has to forgive and reconcile with oneself first and move on past the hurt stage.
  1. Freedom comes when one understands that not everyone knows how to forgive or ask for forgiveness but that the right thing to do was to forgive from the heart in order to obtain spiritual freedom.
  1. Give to them what you would want them to give to you (Luke6:31).

Freedom brings peace to your soul, and enabled loyalty, truthfulness and healing. Reflect on how far you’ve become and give thanks for those you’ve been able to forgive even when they haven’t said I’m sorry.

Ps. Start with yourself! You are a unique soul! #youremore


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching and Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Cual es El Punto

Algo para reflexionar (originally posted in English 4/19/19 w. diff images)

Una vez después de un fin de semana increíblemente victorioso, y lo que sentí como una “vida” de batallas para obtener la victoria, tengo un momento en que me miré y me di cuenta de que siempre he luchado con todo lo que he tenido y más. Por lo cual, me siento tan agotada (Duh).

Ahora, el agotamiento puede venir de hacer todo lo que puede o puede venir de no hacer nada en absoluto. Dicen que las batallas más grandes se pelean en la mente … y eso hay verdad, pero debo decir que hay una verdad mayor, los verdaderos guerreros luchan a los pies de la guerra.

Mi mayor logro es ver una imagen de mí misma y saber que lo intenté y que luché con todo lo que tenía. Solo así puedo estar satisfecha, y vivir en paz conmigo misma, no necesariamente sabiendo que gané, sabiendo que lo intenté. No vamos a ganar todas las batallas. De hecho vamos a perder muchos.

“Pero si perdemos muchas batallas en el intento, por lo tanto, los estamos ganando todos porque no nos dimos por vencidos y lo intentamos” – Denise

(Lo siento, tuve que citar eso)

¡No olvides que ganas cada vez que lo intentas en la vida!

No siempre fue así, no estoy hablando de nada en lo que no tenga experiencia, sé lo que es estar agotado mentalmente después de pelear una batalla sin mover un pie.

A veces, la vida puede se sentir que se te viene encima una vez y que ya no tienes la oportunidad de respirar y ser tú mismo, y eso puede parecer confuso, lo que puede hacer que pierdas el sentido de ti mismo. Solo recuerda quién eras antes de que esto transcurriera y quién aspirabas a ser, qué sueños tenías y en qué dirección ibas.

¿Cuál podría haber sido la razón por la que se desvió, o cuál podría ser el posible propósito de esta maravillosa demora en su vida en este momento? ¡Encuentra la belleza en el ahora!

A veces es necesario pausar las cosas, es posible que se estés siendo salvado de algo que no conoces o podría haber sido una puerta más abierta para usted.

Me di cuenta que mi rostro significa fuerza interior, mayor propósito, mayor satisfacción y “estoy bien porque mayor es el que camina delante de mí, no tengo miedo de caminar sola porque sé que tengo la compañía de los ángeles que me protegen”. No sé cuántas personas se sienten tan seguras en la vida en este momento, y no estoy tratando de decirte que la vida es todo melocotones y fresas (eso es una mentira loca) Ni siquiera me gustan los melocotones de esa manera.

La vida es dura, las luchas mentales son reales, las batallas emocionales son fuertes, la sensación de vacío puede desgarrar el corazón y el caos de la vida puede hacer que uno se sienta vacío y solitario.

Pero recuerda que mayor es el que está en ti (si lo recibes) estando solo y la soledad no es lo mismo, que puedes controlar tus pensamientos y que eres amado porque “eres más”.


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

What’s the Point

Something to reflect

One time after an amazingly victorious weekend, and what it felt like a “lifetime” of fighting battles to obtain the victory, I have a moment when I looked at myself and realized that I’ve always fought with everything I’ve had and more. Thus, I feel so exhausted (Duh).

Now, exhaustion can come from doing everything you can or it can come from not doing anything at all. They say that the greatest battles are fought in the mind…and that is truth indeed, but I must say that there’s is a greater truth. The true warriors fight at the feet of war.

My greatest accomplishment is seeing an image of myself and knowing that I tried, & that I fought with everything that I had. Only then I can be satisfied, and live at peace with myself, not, knowing that I won. Knowing that I tried. We’re not going to win every battle. In fact we’re going to lose many.

“But if we lose many battles trying, therefore we’re winning them all because we didn’t give up and tried” — Denise

(Sorry I had to quote that)

Please don’t forget that you win every time you try in life!

It wasn’t always like this, I’m not speaking of anything I don’t have experience in, I know what is it to be mentally exhausted after fighting a battle without moving a feet.

At times it life may feel like is coming at you all once and that you don’t get an opportunity to breath and be yourself anymore, and that can seem confusing, causing you to lose sense of self perhaps. Just remember who you were before this transcended and who you aspired to be, what dreams you had and what direction you headed.

What could had been the reason why you got detoured, or what could be the possible purpose for this wonderful holdup in your life right now? Find the beauty in the now! Sometimes things need to be paused, you might be being saved from something that you don’t know about or there might be a greater door opening up for you.

My face means inner strength, bigger purpose, greater satisfaction, and “I am okay because Greater is He who walks before me, I am not afraid to walk alone because I know I have the company of the angels protecting me!” I don’t know how many people feel as secure in life right now, and I am not trying to tell you life is all peaches and berries (that is a wacky lie) I don’t even like peaches and berries like that.

Life is hard, the mental struggles are real, the emotional battles are strong, the feeling of emptiness can tear at the heart, and the chaos of life can make one feel empty and lonely.

But remember that greater is he that is in you (if you welcome Him) being alone and loneliness is not the same, that you can control your thoughts, and that you’re loved because “you’re more”!

#satisfaction #joy #purpose #greaterishe #imokay #strength #peace #accomplishment #youaremore


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Labor Pain

The birthplace

So they say “fake till you make it” and I say “Try till you get it”. They say “the sky is the limit” and I say “Life is eternal, there’s no limits as long as you’re alive”.

We are heirs of heaven therefore we will face adversity, and situation while we are here on this earth that will make things seem unbearable.

Trials and tribulations might make you think or feel that the end is near, but God’s voice will remind you that this is just the birthplace. Even if you look ahead and things seem empty and isolated, exercise positive thinking and positive talk.

• You have to fight

• You have to push

• You have to want it

• You have to dream

• You have to pray to get it

• You have to be reborn

• You have to live

Every time there’s a new birth, labor pain will come before. Use the pain a signal that something bigger is coming. In order to birth what you have within you must go through the pain of birthing the promise.

I’ll give you some tips to make it through life day by day.

1. Wake up every morning with new achievable goals: don’t let anything stop you from achieving them.

2. Believe that what you’re going through will not be eternal: although your life is.

3. Appreciate everything that you have: others don’t have a quarter of it.

4. Know that these blessings are from God: no human can give you what He can.

5. Live as if this is your last day: remember that whether in heaven or hell, life is eternal.

Don’t get discouraged by the pain, this is just the birthplace it’s time to reap, push, fight or fake it till you make it.

But I exhort you to fight for what you want until the end.

#thinkpositive #lifeiseternal

With love as always,

Denise K.


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Re-enfócate

¿Ese pensamiento te está estancando? ¡Re-enfócate!

(Originally written and posted in English 3/25/2019)

En la vida, realmente sabemos de qué estamos hechos cuando pasamos por el proceso de purificación… cuando estamos atravesados por el fuego. Es cuando estamos siendo procesados que el mejor de nosotros tiene la oportunidad de salir y brillar, sobresalir y obtener la forma que necesita en ese momento dado en esa situación particular porque en la vida nunca dejaremos de ser formados.

Lo mejor de mí sale cuando estoy pasando por las batallas más difíciles de la vida (o lo que siento que es lo más difícil en ese momento …), ¿no todos tenemos momentos como tales? Pero lo que hacemos en estos tiempos es lo que realmente tiene peso y agrega valor a nuestras vidas, por lo tanto determina el resultado de la situación (sé que siempre lo digo). Por cierto, deberías escuchar la canción “While I’m Waiting” de John Waller.

¿Sabía que todavía puede producir mientras atraviesa un proceso de “sequía”? Hablando hiperbólicamente … Si demasiado dramático, tenía que hacerlo (ya sabe cómo soy). ¿Pero no es así como algunos de nosotros nos sentimos algunas veces?

Quizás cuando estamos trabajando en un proyecto y nadie está de acuerdo porque parecemos ser el único con la visión (suspiros) o cuando tiene planes de comprar un negocio y, en la fecha de cierre, uno de los socios comerciales de la otra parte se niega para firmar, o la compañía de seguros no terminó el papeleo a tiempo. Puede ser grande o pequeño, pero la idea que creamos en nuestra cabeza y lo que hacemos en el proceso de espera es lo que construirá nuestro carácter. Si el acuerdo se concreta, y el proyecto funciona o no. Hay otras rutas para tomar, otras cosas que hacer y otras promesas para usted.

En Génesis 17:21, Dios le dio a Abraham la promesa de que “su esposa le daría un hijo” que parecía naturalmente imposible debido a su vejez “ella se rió”. Fue valiente … se rió de DIOS, (sé que todos lo hemos hecho a veces ‘de nervios’ no podemos creer lo grandes que pueden ser las cosas a veces;), tal vez nos suceda lo mismo cuando estamos atravesando un camino rocoso … Parece que no podemos ver el lado suave y, en el momento y nos agotamos físicamente, no creamos que algo bueno pueda salir de nosotros en ese momento. Y aquí viene el Sr. o la Sra. Positivo Tratando de decirnos “todo va a estar bien, no te rindas, puedes hacerlo, ya casi llegas … sigue nadando” (seguir con la caminata sonaría más relevante).

SIN EMBARGO: el pensamiento de “No puedo hacerlo” es una mentira completa. Sarah (la esposa de Abraham) pudo pasar por el proceso y, a pesar de su vejez, dio a luz a la promesa: Isaac, el niño. Ahora, Sarah no era perfecta. Estaba muy lejos de eso y, en su imperfección, la justicia de Dios respaldado su promesa.

No importa lo que haya hecho usted, cuantas veces haya dudado lo que cuenta es lo que está haciendo ahora y lo que está dispuesto a hacer para avanzar. Puedes dar a luz a muchas naciones. Está en la punta de tus dedos si estás dispuesto a avanzar o no.

A veces obtenemos la tarea más difícil o las promesas más grandes en los momentos más oscuros y parece que no podemos ver la luz para completar esas tareas o encontrar esperanza para alcanzar esas promesas, a veces las dos cosas llegan de una sola vez. Pero lo que hacemos mientras estamos allí es extremadamente importante. Re enfoque. Si has perdido tu visión, te animo a volver a tu promesa y recordar de qué estás hecho, qué te conmueve, qué hace que tu corazón se caliente, qué te pasiones y qué te llama. No dejes que tu corazón se moleste por lo que estás viendo ahora. Piense fuera de su cabeza y vuelve a concentrarte en otra persona.

Es posible que no siempre entendamos el “por qué” de al menos el 70% de las cosas por las que pasamos en la vida, pero podemos conocer el “para qué” al final del proceso, si estamos atravesando las dificultades que enfrentamos. Tomemos una decisión consciente de aprender algo de ello. E incluso si no es una dificultad, si decidimos dar nuestro máximo provecho a la situación para obtener la mejor experiencia de aprendizaje, evitar cometer los mismos errores o expandirnos y crecer (incluso si enfrentamos una situación similar nuevamente) No reaccionaremos de la misma manera.

La clave está en estar determinado a tomar medidas para evitar reacciones abruptas que podrían cambiar el molde en el que estamos pasando por un proceso ardiente. Tu molde es único.

¿Has oído hablar de ese dicho, “cosecharás lo que has sembrado”? A veces parece tan injusto, especialmente cuando has sembrado la bondad en las personas y recibes amarguras a cambio, tratadas injustamente y con falta de respeto … ¿verdad? ¡Lo sé! No estas solo. Yo también he estado allí queridos. Esto sucede en casa, en el trabajo, en el parque, en la supermercado e incluso en el elegante restaurante que deseamos tener una agradable cena con nuestros seres queridos.

Ahora, ¿has oído hablar de la verdad de que “personas lastimadas lastima a otras personas”, la amargura que estás saboreando puede que no sea de la semilla que sembraste, y aprender a identificar eso es muy importante para terminar con la auto-culpa? Es posible que no pueda cambiar un corazón amargado y dañado con el que no tiene una relación (es decir, en el restaurante, supermercado, etc.) pero puede intentar buscar ayuda en familia para sus seres queridos y con sus familiares. amados. En el caso de sus compañeros de trabajo, empleados o empleadores, puede sugerir/realizar seminarios web, conferencias sobre cómo mantener la comunicación, dejar de lado el pasado y avanzar en el trabajo. No puede cambiar a nadie, pero puede cambiar y re enfocar sus pensamientos todas las mañanas y todas las noches.

Te digo otra cosa es posible rechazar esa energía negativa que ha intentado sentarse en tu corazón, e invertir ese tiempo, ese pensamiento, ese corazón en otra persona, en otra actividad, en una nueva idea, una nueva creación, una nueva versión y una mejora de ti mismo, tal vez.

Piense en cómo puede comenzar a sembrar en la vida de otra persona, retírese de esa situación y muévase a lo que puede hacer a continuación.

¿Dónde puede ser productivo, cómo puede seguir avanzando hacia su promesa?

¡Recuerda que todavía puedes producir mientras tengas vida! Conviértete en el padre y la madre de naciones expándete y crece.

¡Solo tienes que creer!

Con amor como siempre,

Denise Kilby


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Christian Lay Counseling. All rights reserved.

Refocus

Is that thought making you stagnant? Refocus!

In life we truly know what we are made of when we are going through the purification process…when we are put through the fire. It is when we are being processed that the best of us gets a chance to come out and shine, to stand out and get the shape that it needs at that given time in that particular situation because in life we will never stop being shaped.

The best of me comes out when I’m going though the toughest battles in life (or what I feel is the hardest at the time…), don’t we all have times as such? But what we do in these times is what really holds the weight and adds value to our lives, thus determines the outcome of the situation (I know I’m always saying this). BTW, you should listen to that song “While I’m Waiting” by John Waller.

Did you know that you can still produce while you’re going through a process of “drought”? Hyperbolically speaking…I know overly dramatic, I had to. But isn’t that the way some of us feel sometime. Perhaps when we are working on a project and no one agrees because you seem to be the only one with the vision (sighs) or when you have plans to buy a business and at the closing date one of the business partners from the other party refuses to sign, or the insurance company didn’t finish the paper work on time. It can be big or small but the idea that we create in our head and what we do in the waiting process is what will build our character. Whether the deal comes through, and the project works out or not. There are other routes, to take, other things to do, and other promises for you.

In Genesis 17:21 God gave Abraham a promise that “his wife would give him a son” that seem naturally impossible due to their old age “she laughed”. She was braved… she laughed at GOD, (I know we all have sometimes, we can’t believe how big things can be sometimes;), The same seems to happen to us when when are going through a rocky path…we can’t seem to see the smooth side and at time get physically exhausted, don’t believe that anything good can come out of us at that time. And here comes Mr. or Mrs.’s positive trying to tell us “everything is going to be alright, don’t give up, you can do it, you’re almost there…keep swimming” (keep hiking would sound more relevant right-wink face).

HOWEVER—The “I can’t do it” thought is a full lie. Sarah (Abraham’s wife) was able to go through the process and despite her old age give birth to the promise—child Isaac. Now, Sarah wasn’t perfect. She was far from it indeed and in her imperfection God’s righteousness didn’t back up on His promise. No matter what you have done, how many times you’ve doubter what counts is what you’re doing now, and what you’re willing to do to move forward. You can give birth to many nations. It is in your finger tips whether you’re willing to move forward or not.

Sometimes we get the hardest assignment or the biggest promises in the darkest moments and can’t seem to see the light to complete those assignments or to find hope to believe those promises, at times we get both in one shot. But what we do while we are there is extremely important. Refocus. If you have lost your vision I encourage you to go back to your promise and remember what you’re made of, what moves you, what makes your heart warm, what passions you and is calling you. Don’t let your heart be trouble by what you’re seeing right now. Think outside your head, and refocus on someone else.

We might not always understand the “why” of at least 70% of the things we go through in life but can get to know the “what for” at the end of the process, if while we’re going through the hardship we make a conscious decision to learn something from it. And even if its not a hardship if we decide to give our all to the situation in order to get the best learning experience from it to avoid making the same mistakes or to expand and grow (even if we face a similar situation again) we will not react the same way.

The key is on being determined to take action to avoid abrupt reactions that could shift the mold in which we are through fiery process. You’re mold is unique.

Have you heard of that saying, “you will reap what you have sown”? Sometimes it seems so unfair, especially when you have sown goodness in people and get bitterness in return, treated unfairly, and with disrespect… correct!? I know! You’re not alone. I too been there my dear. This happens at home, at work, at the park, grocery store and even at the fine restaurant we want to go have a nice sit down dinner with our love ones.

Now, have you heard of the truth that “hurt people hurt people”, that bitterness you’re tasting may not be from the seed you planted, and learning to identify that is very important in order to end self-blame. You may not not be able to change a bitter damaged heart with who you don’t have a relationship with (i.e. at the restaurant, grocery store etc.) but you can try to seek help as a family for your loved ones and with your love ones. In the case of your co-workers, employees, or employers you can suggest/do webinars , conferences on how to have the communication, let go of the past and move forward at work. You can’t change anyone, but can change and refocus your thoughts every morning and every night.

I tell you what else is possible to refuse that energy, that time, that thought, and that heart in someone else, into something else, a new activity a new idea, a new creation, a new version, and improvement of yourself perhaps.

Think about how you can start sowing in someone else’s life, take your focus from that situation and move it to what you can do next.

Where can you be productive, how can you keep moving towards your promise? Remember you can still produce as long as you have life! Become the father and mother of nations expand and grow.

You need to believe!!

With love as always,

Denise Kilby


©️2019 Denise Kilby Life Coach & Christian Lay Counseling. All rights reserved.

Keep Your Vision on The Mission

This post was originally written and posted on 5/15/2018, but today I had some readers visiting this post in particular and it spoke to me. I changed the image and the main tittle as I had posted originally in May (spring time) here I am reposting believing and trusting that it will speak to a lot of people again!

Don’t let what you don’t see NOW take your eyes away from what you KNOW despite of what you see in front of you!

I come to you with fervor anger to wake you up to help you understand that your current situation have been shaped by a series of circumstances not by a person nor a creator. Your creator is bigger! You are more! Don’t you worry by what is right in front of you, the battles you’re facing right now are something that will end despite of what you’re seeing, don’t try to fight them alone.

Are you physically fighting these battles? Phew, I didn’t think you were, unless you are reading me from a literal AND PHYSICAL war zone right now (and if that’s the case my respects and please BELIEVE Jesus will come through). Let’s continue; that is because these battle are not physical. Then how come we can feel beaten, how can we say we are going through a battle or that we are battling at all, and they are so exhausting and overwhelming, Denise?

Because they are spiritual. They drain us, we are humans, we worry, we become angry, we use it wrongly, we get anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, develop obsessive compulsive behaviors, sexual misconduct, become adulterous and A LOT MORE! Those are the battles we face everyday, some fight them some join them some only notice them when they are in too deep others don’t notice them at all and need to be save by someone else. There’s hope to fight if  you’re willing to give it a shot, there’s a devil who has his demons on the loose trying to keep the minds captives and making them feel all sort of negative feelings, unbalancing chemicals in the brain breaking marriages, corrupting children, bringing pornography to our homes, making our teenagers feel unworthy or grow an altered ego! YES!! THAT IS THE DEVIL’S DEMONS. Because the devil came to lie, to steal, kill and destroy. But there’s also a God, who came to bring life, abundant life (John 10:10). This is all a spiritual battle, if yoou’re not physically fighting it you’re mentally fighting it. A lot of people believe in the satan but fail to believe in God, how about we say “not today satan, not today I made a choice to believe that good things come to those who pray and believe in good things!”

Who are you willing to fight for today? Is it for your children, your marriage, your friend, your job, your spirituality, your wholeness, your health, or a love one, perhaps a stranger? Whatever, whoever it is! There’s hope! Be patience and do what every season requires of you to do.
I am fighting today for my house, for my children, for my health (in all aspects) and for everyone in this world who needs a good fight in prayer. That is why I write and share this message with you.

Enjoy the seasons in your life and remember that there’s always two tests that you have to pass

Who you are when you have a lot and who you are when you have less, these are the tests of faith.

What do you choose to believe during drought season? Do not let what you see cloud your spiritual vision, you know that conviction that you feel in your heart what many people call a “gut feeling”.

Do you think it’ll rain again, does it look like it’ll spring again? Let your intuition guide you to positive thoughts that will eventually take you to positive things in life. Learn how to connect with the things that you don’t see but that you do want to see and let go of negative thinking. #hope .

Who do you believe? Connect with the source of life don’t live in a world filled with beautiful things and beautiful people feeling empty.

Do you believe the people who are saying that spring will never come or do you believe what you have known your whole entire life? (be careful with that—spring always comes). Will nature continue to take its natural course even though the current circumstances are saying otherwise?  When you have your spirit centered in greater things your faith grows in the super natural and you begin to see things possible, you believe there’s hope for growth, change, overcoming, prosperity, wealth, health, wisdom, and faith begins to bloom. You will no longer see as the world sees you will see things that are not as if the ordinary sees it and you will believe the impossible possible. #faith

What do you know, what have you learned throughout your life, what has God showed you? What you know about life and what you have learned are just part of the process, part of the walk, part of the battle, part of the scars necessary to mark you and shape your tomorrow. What you have learned from it is what will give you the ultimate victory! Do not be anxious about anything! — #certainty

The Meaning of Faith

“Now faith is the assurance that what we hope for will come about and the certainty that what we cannot see exists. By faith our ancestors won approval.” (Hebrews 11:1-2)

“Sometimes you have to be angry to try to save someone and when I’m angry I write to inspire change, and hope”—Denise

Which reminds me of Martin Luther King Jr. , I love his quote below.

“I find nothing that promotes work better than angry fervor. For when I wish to compose, write, pray and preach well, I must be angry. It refreshes my entire system, my mind is sharpened, and all unpleasant thoughts and depression fade away.” –Martin Luther

#Passion #love #anger #calling #future #inspiration

My beloved readers: I write, pray and believe in faith that what I share here with you for free, by grace because it was given to me by grace will have a great impact in your lives and the lives of those with whom you decide to share it with.


“Please remember that this is with the intention to inform, encourage, motivate, and educate not to replace any medical advice prior given. Always seek the advice of your physician or other professionally qualified mental health provider wih any questions you may have regarding medical conditons”

Email me where it says “contact”, text or call me (if no answer leave a voicemail!), you can also contact me on intagram with any questions, do not try to solve problem on your own, this is for you to know that you are more and you’re not alone I am here to guide you and hold your hand.

With love, passion, willingness, and your best interest at heart,

—Denise Kilby


©️ 2019 Denise Kilby Life Coaching & Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

 

365 Days of New Opportunities

Could we change something this year?

What if I tell you we can?

There are circumstances that we create and turn into situations that mark our lives, many others are circumstances of which we become victims because of family members or people with whom we live create a series of situations and even if we do not want to, we become easy prey of the adversary and without realizing we end up addicted to an abusive and unwanted life pattern.

But with each new day comes the opportunity to start from zero.

You see what I am saying (I truly hope so), every time I say God what is going on with this world why isn’t anyone doing anything for each other anymore? I am hit straight in my face with truth and sleepless nights with walking around looking disconnected with hearth, praying, writing and reading trying to figure things out…ugh—(THAT’S WHY I HAVE YOU, HE SAYS!) this is why I write so much for you this why my passion is bigger than my need for sleep and keeps me up until 1 am and it awakes me at 4am readers, take advantage. Reach out, stop complaining (ask questions later).

Okay now, we make mistakes—again—we live and learn, so can we learn from our mistakes and move on shall we?

Today I want to talk to you about the opportunity that God gives, and the gift that He will give you each of the 365 days of this New Year that is approaching.

Many of the people who fail their New Year’s Resolution (if they) do not have God in their heart as a spiritual guide to centralize them and keep them in the right path end up worse by the end of the year.

Some examples are that: When goals are proposed to get out of depression and to obtain mental closure if they do not seek the right help they tend to fail into a more severe depression, others who fail their diet will gain even more weight, those who say they won’t intake more alcohol if they fail will still take more than they took the previous year and alcoholism will end up consuming them, those who say and propose higher financial goals if they do not do well in their jobs feel even more inept than before (and it is there a lot of times when depression and suicide enters the homes) they let that affect them with their families and in their marriages. The reason for this is because a life without the guidance that keeps us with our feet on the ground is like trying to walk on the clouds with our feet stuck under rocks, instead of with our feet on THE ROCK (which is Christ Jesus) therefore life weighs more instead of feeling lighter.

It ALSO happens that people rise too much to such a level that fame, riches, vanity, and vainglory consumes them, it hurts their soul, and the evil yoke rots on their soul on a spiritual level that The Holy Spirit of God begins to grieve silently (but that’s another theme, for another day or for email).

I don’t know if you want to be one of the bunch, but like I said… I don’t want to be one of bunch!

I was not going to publish this type of “New Year’s Resolution” publication but I read the following today somewhere and it motivated me to write this publication,

“We can not do everything at once, but we can do something at once”

Something AT ONCE-—PACE YOURSELF Don’t you think that if we look at the days as they arrive and we make plans and goals for ourselves and for our lives in order to work on them one day at a time and one goal at a time life will begin to have more lightness in itself… in our daily routine?

God does not give us the 365 days all at the same time, then why do we try to do everything at once, or in many occasions wish for everything in life (that all the good things happened) at the same time?

Do not worry about anything; rather, on every occasion, with prayer and petition, present your requests to God and give thanks. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will take care of your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4: 6-7), worry for one day at a time Matthew 6:34, one goal at a time Philippians 3: 12-14.

God equipped us with a substance called opioids “endogenous” that is produced naturally by the molecules of our brain and helps us deal with pain naturally, these opioids are like those of morphine and heroin. This is why many people become addicted to these substances with such an ease and it becomes so difficult to break that addiction, although it was something given by God to help us protect ourselves and fight pain naturally, it was also duplicated by the enemy of God -Satan to bind the children of God to an addiction and keep them bondage to earthly chains.

When we experience traumas, painful situations, abuse in our childhood and even as adults, when we are in sick and harmful relationships and we see that the cycle continues and does not end even when we want it to end because it hurts us and we no longer want to go to on, this applies to our career paths (our relationship with our employers and coworkers), and this also applies to our church live our congregations and our relationships with our pastors and our leaders. It is healthy to do a self-examination and look to see what can be what is holding us stagnant and is keeping us stuck (perhaps bondage) and that could be what allowing us to continue in that pattern and life cycle.

That is why many times it is necessary to look at our past, our childhood or at the beginning of any relationship or career, be it employment or life path; to find out the root of the problem and uprooted—we have to work from the source and not the branches. Everything starts somewhere. As much as we do not want to, our brains produces this chemical to protect us from painful situations, and often (as it is addictive) we get used to the pain, and the cure (the drug, which is also the antidote) does not come unless we go through the disease (but the cure – the drug) is worse than the disease at times.

We must heal, heal our hearts, go through the pain, let our bodies stop producing that antidote so frequent that is keeping us addicted to creating those circumstances and those situations that keep us stagnate day by day… the Lord has processed us in this year, and we can now say in THIS new Year (and every new day) “come with new strength and heal everything that is blocking and preventing me from seeing the severity of the matter”.

Friends, do not be afraid to seek help. You do not have to wait another day, but also you do not have to do everything at the same time… you do not have to wait another year, but ALSO don’t have to do it alone either. As any addiction you need someone to help you out of it, someone who tells you how to break free, how to break the cycle in which you find yourself (we understand that it is not because you want to) sometimes it’s because you love, and love is good but it often hurts, until you are well you are not in a position to help someone else.

Not everyone falls into that category, others are in need of getting a hold of themselves just for them.

The tests and the processes that you did not completed in this year, you might have to face and retake it next year. Think about how you end this year; analyze how you are going to start this “New Year” (see how I’m speaking in present time?) all you have is now!

Are you ready, are you in shape for what is coming or are you going to wait for a resolution to get fit?

It all starts with the heart!

With love,

—Denise Kilby


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