Pick a Random Person and Surprise Them

Do Good Without Looking at Whom

Original post first shared in Spanish 5/16/19

If you are still unsure of what you can do different today, here I have a suggestion for you, “do something for somebody (randomly) who has never done anything for you”.

Kindness is the biggest act of love and when we show kindness (especially random kindness) we surprise ourselves with how deep we can love and how unconditional God’s love is for EVERYONE!

Don’t try to be selective about the person, because if you try to think about who has never done anything for you A LOT of people will come to that list, the cards will turn to yourself AGAIN, and this is not about you (not today) this is about doing and giving to someone else.

Don’t get me wrong you will be rewarded, but you have to learn how to put yourself last (wholeheartedly) so then God can put you first!

Take note of this very important three points that will help you be more clear tomorrow:

  1. Don’t do for others just because it looks good, at the end everyone will know the truth. #truth
  2. Give without expectation, those who give with love will ALWAYS receive a rearward from above #trust
  3. Love yourself enough to know that you don’t have to prove yourself, you have to be yourself and that will be your best proof of who you are #genuineness

Be the change that you want to see in others, do not wait for someone to do for YOU what you want, do for them what THEY want first. Remember the domino effect.

NOTE: The Spanish post was a trial to see if I have a Spanish audience who could also benefit from my blog and posts, please if you know anyone share the post and I will find the means and time to create more posts in Spanish or an effective translation tool so everyone can be well edified!

My beloved, my readers, my support, my clients, my motivation, as always with the best interest at heart

—Your coach and Lay Christian counselor, 

Denise Kilby

©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coach & Lay Christian Counselor. All rights reserved.


How are you loving today?

Unconditional Love

No matter the time

No matter the space

No matter the distance

No matter the people

No matter issues

No matter means

No matter ways

Remains


  1. Love should never be measured by what you give, but by what you truly feel and how you show it instead.
  2. Love doesn’t change by the circumstances, or emotions.
  3. Feelings can be hurt, but we have to learn how to love like Jesus did, unconditionally.
  4. His feelings were hurt, He was human too, yet He didn’t stop loving.
  5. Check in with yourself to see how are you loving those you say “say you love unconditionally” love doesn’t play games, doesn’t expire, it’s eternal!

Are you one of those people who only “loves” emotionally? Or do you truly love? Examine yourself today, and stop checking on the people around you.

Have a wonderful day my friend.

Now I must tell you, I have faced some situations recently that have lefts me with very little options but to examine myself and check on my feelings towards other people and I have come to the realization that when I love I truly LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY!!

I would had not been speaking unless I had lived it or had been trained to speak speak about about it!

I am here for you!

You already know, with your best interest at heart ♥️

(Ps. You may see a lot of changes when comes to in the sites name and domain lately but they are to better serve you as a consumer, as everything I do is to bring you the best services possible, and information. Thank you for your patiently understanding.)

©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coach Lay Christian Counselor. All rights reserved.


It’s Time

You may have been listening to someone preaching (jabbing,talking,nagging) about the same thing for many years and saying “that message isn’t for me, they’re talking about themselves” but in reality #today that message is trying to be #delivered to your life #tune your heart and mind to what is being said to you!

There is a warriors trying to come out from the victim mentality. There is a different mentality and it’s time that you start seeing it spiritually and culturally!

The only way to grow a muscle is by using it, use your mind, change your mindset, to transform your heart, you can do this! Train your mind, to begin again—it is hard but with the right help you can get through it! Listen to God’s voice!

Become aware of your mental and emotional health, without a healthy mind there are small chances of a good physical health. Wake up and decide to live your life, retake what belong to you love those who are around you to the fullest and embrace what it’s been given to you. If you feel like it’s hard to be yourself, take a mental assessment—ask yourself, can this be because you’re too worry about what everyone thinks of yourself? Be yourself!


If you struggle with the idea of starting over again, or taking the first steps to even begin for the first time in life I encourage you to find a local coach or friend who can help you, or email me and stay connected with me.

I me here to help!

As always,

With your best interest at heart!

©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coach Lay Christian Counselor. All rights reserved.


Every Question Have a Right to Be Answered

Can I talk now?

Nice Saturday!!

Be open minded and live prepared to receive the answers to the questions you ask. Always remember that with the attitude or character you make claims, demand and make certain requirements—towards family, friends, or people close to you, collaborators or others with whom you work. With that same strength, diligent and proficient people will give you clear answers and explain you in detail.

Before making any speculation, asking questions or demanding. Take a self-test so you can go prepared with the necessary tools to receive and organize all the ideas.

If you have doubts and questions, be willing to listen to the answers.

Be receptive and analytical. Use logical reasoning and think further than whats on the surface. What everyone can see doesn’t require to be questioned. And again, things aren’t always as they seem. Therefore, if you ask; you’re wondering you must be questioning something. Why not wait for the answer.

Learn how to let people talk.

Closed minds ask and answer themselves even after obtaining the answer from the direct source.

My though and prayer is that this Saturday (if reading in actual time, if not when you read this) all your affairs are carried out as you wish. And that every question or doubt you have is answered from the direct source, not from mere speculations or gossips. And may God mold your character and allow you to be prepared to listen and be open-minded and give you the ability to understand by giving you insight. Knowing that if we ask we must listen to answers and although they will not always be the ones we want. They will be the ones we need to stop wondering.

With love and care!


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Don’t Doubt Yourself

What we are facing is real but we can achieve more

Something to take on for the weekend 🥰 There’s nothing wrong with feeling frustrated and oppressed from time to time and not knowing what to do. In fact there’s nothing wrong with wanting to take care of your own circumstances at times—that is only revealing your human nature. Who else will handle your situations if not yourself right? (Well God…but😉)

As long as you know who takes care of you and you always come to your senses and surrender in humility understanding that you can’t do it alone you will always gain the wisdom, strength and willingness to keep going.

I don’t know where you find yourself today, but I find myself transitioning. Woohoo 🙌 🥳!!!!

And I think is one of the best times of my life, until… I think 🤔: WHAT 😯 DOES MY HUSBAND (really) THINKS? You know the unsaid words that sometimes you feel like creep up in silence?! Or that we feel like creep up in silence, and May never do…🤯

Don’t self doubt I suggest everyone, if you want to do something go out there and launch, be positive and believe in yourself. Always aware of your circumstances, but never afraid 😟 of the outcomes, look at life as an eternity realm of possibilities and embrace every step of the way.

BTW—and on a side note—I absolutely hope you can see those cute emojis I am trying to integrate to this writings.

If you fail at something BELIEVE ME you will over come it, because in life whatever you fail at you will retake it until you pass it otherwise you’ll be stuck on that chapter forever—and no one wants that!

Go out there with a WIN attitude, but be very careful of yourself and how you see others. Stay humble at all times.

I read on an article this morning that, too often, we try to win high self-regard in cheap ways. And without noticing or even purposely we put others down or make them seem as if they are less by comparing our achievements with theirs, simply because they are the weakest ones around us. We conform to cultural norms, believing what society values is what we value and how society defines success is how we must define success. These cheap tricks are unsustainable and lead to narcissism during good times and depression during hard times.

How you see yourself during the low times is what will define you during the high times.


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Leveled

“Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life. Rescue me from my enemies, Lord, for I hide myself in you. Teach me to do your will, for you are my God; may your good Spirit lead me on level ground”(Psalm 143:8-10 NIV).

May God’s Spirit lead you to a balanced life, to level grounds where you can make sound decisions based on His will for your life.

“You know what you were created for and where God wants to take you, when you think about such things and you become balanced and stable in life”—Denise K.

There will always be people to try to turn off your fire, but remember that you are ignited from within. Pursue your calling and walk in obedience, never confirming to this world but reminding this world that you live conformed by the Spirit of God who renewed your mind and soul.

Positive thinking without positive action is dead mind-work. Apply your wisdom to your intelligence for a successful journey.

Don’t change your way of thinking to please those who speak louder. Listen quietly to the voice that speaks to your heart when you read in silence.

As always my dear friend, with your best interest at heart! There is hope!!


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Discernment Gives Discretion

“A truly beautiful woman must practice discernment because this shows that she can make good choices. The verse says that if a woman doesn’t have discernment, then she will make poor choices just like a pig would. Beauty on the outside means nothing if a woman cannot discern whether she’s dressing appropriately or not. A truly beautiful woman fears the Lord and that is what makes Christian women attractive”. —Unknown

There is not much to add to this. A relationship with God that is built in constant communion with Him will always weight more than the latest fab.

“For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps,” (1Peter2:21).

We are not called to please the world, to follow the latest fab (even if times has change—He’s still the same God) but we are called to show the world that although we travel through it we are heirs of heaven.

“If you believe you can overcome”

“You are from God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world” (1 John 4:4).

As His children we are “an inheritance that can never, perish, soil or fade”. We are not to be contaminated by this world but to bring clarity to those who walk in its darkness. Dare to make the difference.

“When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life”

(John 8:12 NIV).

If like Jesus you know where you came from and where you are going, you make sure to make a difference.

As always, with your best interest at heart!

—Denise Kilby


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Equilibrium

As humans we posses the ability to control our thoughts, something that not a lot of people believe, are aware of, or are yet to discover. Whenever we face a stressful situation in life we are capable of recovering from it very quickly… (yes quickly). Is all about the thoughts that we use and put in our minds right after the event to replace mind-blurring, negative thoughts.

Keep in mind this is different than traumatic events (i.e a mother who loses her child, child abuse, or domestic violence).

We are talking about emotions how they affect our mood and how we have the capability to regain control of them!

The difference in the impact that bad situations have in our lives 🆚 the memory of it being erased is that we are more conscious (humanly aware) on how that particular situation made us feel… thus we don’t realize when have freed ourselves from that feeling as the day goes by. Again unconsciously replacing negative thoughts with positive one.

To overcome a bad situation we must accept it, deal with it and move on.

“No one can postpone emotions but everyone can control their thoughts before they become permanent feeling” —Denise K.

A last night argument, misunderstanding, disagreement cannot be the reason you’re walking around grouchy, or grumpy with everyone today. Take those thoughts captive—remember (2 Corinthians 10:5)? Put it to practice!

. **Always make sure that your feeling are being validated at lest by yourself**

Being aware of our emotional state will allow us to understand our feelings which is the first step to recovery from past hurt or emotional imbalance.

Advice:

  1. Control your #impulsiveness become aware of your actions.
  2. Practice self-patient and pray to become patient—always self aware, but yet sensitive to others.
  3. Don’t shy out to try new things; shyness will only place you in a low energy level, resilience, and low sensitivity to the world because you’re too focus in how the world can make you feel. Don’t deprive-yourself.
  4. Be focused to attention, don’t become anxious about things that are yet to come. Being anxious will only delay your recovery from past situation.

If you are reading in actual time have a Happy Friday, become what you believe and recover from resilience, mental health impulsivity, lack of patient, anxiety, physical health condition. Or any other thing that is controlling your mind.


©️2019 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.