365 Días de Nuevas Oportunidades

Tendremos la oportunidad de cambiar algo este año?

Que tal si yo te digo que sí?

Hay circunstancias que creamos que se convierten en situaciones y marcan nuestras vidas, muchas otras son circunstancias de las cuales nos convertimos víctimas ya que familiares o personas con las que vivimos crean una seria de situaciones y aunque no queramos nos convertimos en presas fáciles del adversario y sin percatarnos terminamos adictos a un patrón de vida abusivo e indeseado.

Pero con cada nuevo día llega la oportunidad de comenzar de zero. Se aproxima un nuevo año, y hay tanta gente hablando de “La Resolución de Nuevo Año” pero yo no quiero ser una más del montón. Yo no quiero hablar de “Resolución de Nuevo Año” es más, me aburre el tema… la frase me cansa y nunca me a gustado, no creo en tal cosa. Creo en que la vida es una seria de circunstancias creada por individuos y seres capaces de cambiarlas en cualquier momento u oportunidad dada y realmente deseada.

(OWCH — ¿fue eso demasiado duro?) Lo siento, pero como niños no tenemos control de nuestras vidas, y cuando nos convertimos en adultos nos dan la UNICA oportunidad de nuestro tiempo de la vida LA oportunidad de cambiar las cosas y vivir la vida que queremos… ¿por qué arruinaría yo eso… por qué lo pondrías tu en peligro? Sé que muchos no saben nada mejor y están atrapados en lo que han conocido todas sus vidas. Pero hay esperanza. Hay gente como yo aquí en este mundo (es aqui cuando toma un poco de orgullo, Denise ja…) no, se llama dar por Gracia lo que por Gracia se ha recibido. Usted ve lo que estoy diciendo (realmente espero que sí), cada vez que digo Dios que es lo que está sucediendo con este mundo ¿por qué ya nadie está haciendo nada el uno por el otro? Soy golpeada directamente en mi cara con la verdad y las noches sin dormir con caminar alrededor mirándome desconectado con el hogar, como si no estuviese en esta tierra, orando, escribiendo y leyendo tratando de averiguar las cosas… UGH — (¡ES POR ESO QUE TE TENGO A TI, ME DICE!) y es por eso que escribo tanto para ustedes mis lectores. Mi pasión es más grande que mi necesidad de dormir y me mantiene hasta 1am y me despierta en las madrugadas a las 4am, tomen ventaja. Acérquense, dejen de quejarse (hagan preguntas más tarde). Hoy yo quiero hablarte de la oportunidad que da Dios y del regalo que el te hace cada uno de los 365 días de este nuevo año que se aproxima—muchas de las personas que fallan a su resolución de nuevo año si no tienen a Dios en su corazón como guía espiritual que los vuelve a centralizar terminar peor que como empezaron el año. Cuando se proponen metas de salir de la depresión y de salir del encierro mental si no buscan la ayuda correcta tienden a caer en una depresión más severa, otras que fallan a su dieta engordarán aún más, las que dicen no tomar más si fallan tomarán aún más de lo que tomaban el año anterior y el alcoholismo terminará consumiéndolos, las que dicen y se proponen metas financieras más altas si no les va bien en sus empleos se sienten aún más ineptos que antes (es hay cuando entra la depresión/ el suicidio) y dejan que eso les afecte con sus familias y en sus matrimonios. La razón de esto es porque una vida sin la guía que nos mantiene con los pies en el suelo es como intentar caminar sobre las nubes con los pies estancados bajo las rocas, en lugar de con los pies sobre LA ROCA (que es Cristo Jesus) entonces la vida pesa en lugar de sentirse liviana.

TAMBIÉN suele suceder que las personas o suben mucho a tal nivel que la fama, las riquezas, la vanidad, y la vanagloria les consume les daña el alma y los yugos malvados le pudren el alma a un nivel espiritual que contrista El Espíritu Santo de Dios (pero ese es otro tema, para otro día o para email).

No iba a publicar un tipo de publicación de “Resolución de Año Nuevo pero leí lo siguiente hoy y me motivó a escribir esta publicación,

“No podemos hacer todo a la vez, pero podemos hacer algo a la vez”

No creen ustedes que si miramos a los días según llegan y hacemos planes y metas para nosotros mismos y para nuestras vidas con fin de trabajar en ellos un día a la vez y una meta a la vez la vida comenzará a tener más ligereza… en el diario vivir?

Dios NO nos da los 365 días todos a la misma vez, entonces porque intentamos hacerlo todo a la ligera o en muchas ocaciones a la misma vez?

No se inquieten por nada; más bien, en toda ocasión, con oración y ruego, presenten sus peticiones a Dios y denle gracias. Y la paz de Dios, que sobrepasa todo entendimiento, cuidará sus corazones y sus pensamientos en Cristo Jesús (Filipenses 4:6-7), preocúpate por un día a la vez Mateo 6:34, una meta a la vez Filipenses 3:12-14.

Dios nos equipó con una sustancia llamada opioides “endógenos” que es producida naturalmente por las moléculas de nuestro cerebro y nos ayuda a lidiar con dolor naturalmente, estos opioides son como los de la morfina y la heroína aún. Es por esto que muchas personas se adictas a tales sustancias con tal facilidad y se les hace tan difícil romper ese vicio o adicción, y aunque fue algo naturalmente dado por Dios fue corrompido y duplicado por el enemigo más grande de Dios satanás para atar a los hijos de Dios a los vicio y a esclavitud y cadenas terrenales.

Cuando nosotros experimentamos traumas, situaciones dolorosas, abusos en nuestra niñez y aún de adultos, estamos en relaciones enfermizas y dañinas y vemos que el ciclo continúa y no termina aún cuando nosotros queremos que termine porque nos duele y ya no queremos continuar viviendo así, es saludable hacer un autoexamen y mirar para ver qué puede ser lo que nos mantiene estancados y (esclavizados) y eso podría ser lo que nos permita continuar en ese patrón y ciclo de vida muchas veces indeseado. Esto también se aplica a nuestras trayectorias profesionales (nuestra relación con nuestros empleadores y compañeros de trabajo), y esto, se aplica a nuestra iglesia, nuestras congregaciones y nuestras relaciones con nuestros pastores y nuestros líderes.

Por eso muchas veces es necesario mirar a nuestro pasado, a nuestra niñez o al principio de toda relación o carrera, ya sea de empleo o de vida para ver dónde comenzó la adicción (donde comenzó tu cerebro a protegerte del dolor y el trauma). Todo comienza en algún lugar. Por más que no queramos, nuestro cerebro produce este químico para protegernos de situaciones dolorosas, y muchas veces (como es adictivo) nos acostumbramos al dolor y la cura (la droga que también es el antídoto) no llega al menos que no pasemos por la enfermedad pero la cura (la droga) es más mala que la enfermedad.

Debemos de curarnos, sanarnos, pasar por el dolor, dejar que nuestros cuerpos dejen de producir el antídoto que nos está manteniendo adictos a lo que nos estanca día a día…El Señor nos procesó en este año, ahora podemos decir; en ESTE Nuevo Año (y todos los días Nuevo día) llega con nuevas fuerzas y sana todo lo que está impidiendo que yo pueda ver la gravedad del asunto.

Amigos, no tengan miedo en buscar ayuda. No tienes que esperar un día más, pero tampoco lo tienes que hacer todo a la vez… no tienes que esperar un año más, pero tampoco lo tienes que hacer solo. Como toda adicción necesitas a alguien que te ayude a salir de ella, a alguien que te diga como romper libre el ciclo en el que te encuentras (entendemos que no es porque quieres) aveces es porque amas, y el amor aunque es bueno muchas veces daña, pero hasta que no estés bien no estás en condición de ayudar a alguien más.

Muchas veces no tienen nada que ver con otra persona.

No todos caen en esa categoría, otros necesitan conseguirse solo para ellos mismos.

Las pruebas y los procesos que no completaste en este año, quizás las tienes que volver a enfrentar y retomar el año que viene. Piensa bien como terminas este año; analizar cómo vas a comenzar este “Año Nuevo” (ves cómo hablo en presente?) porque solo tienes hoy!

Ya estás listo, ya estás en forma para lo que viene o vas a esperar a hacer la resolución para ponerte en forma?

Todo comienza con el corazón!

With love,

Denise Kilby


©️2018-2019 Denise Kilby Life Coaching & Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

Generation Z Managing Stress

Let’s try to understand others shall we…

Sometimes as I look at my 19 year old son I think “he doesn’t even put any effort into trying to think” (is that even such a thing) okay judging free zone like planet fitness—don’t judge me—truth is that he thinks a lot more than I can even or ever imagine. I actually believe he is a lot like me (more than I’d like to admit right now) he studies people observes the world, the way people treat each other, the way people live, the way that I am, what I say verbally and non-verbally, the way I judge verbally and non-verbally as well, he is maturing in silence and even stressing in silence as well.

Is like when he does speaks he is letting out in two or three phrases everything he hasn’t said in two or three months. Have you ever wonder what this generation Z (young people full of silent life) think about? Gosh scary to think…but if you want to know i recommend you play a “Tell me something about your and how you feel” game with them— I’ll tell you more about it in a sec, but truth is that they might not tell you much while they are put on the spot (or sat in the hot chair) but the minute you start talking about them or trying to describe who they are or give them identity as a parent whether  in a jokingly manner or not boy I tell ya’!

Interesting, huh… well reason why I talk about this is because as I was saying he thinks a lot more than I can (or want to) imagine. The way that he manages stress is very different (and important for me to understand as a mom) than the way that I do. A lot of parents or adults don’t know how to talk to generation Z or how to approach them, they believe that they are silent in their own world and absolutely absent in the “reality” of the one we live in.

As a mom of three beautiful souls of this generation I was moved today to write a quick post to inspire my friends (all of you) and lovely readers to try to understand our younger generation, whether they are friends, neighbors, co-workers, siblings, step-kids, OUR OWN children, kids of friends , or an extended relative…etc.

Children let’s not expect but instead listen to their silent and respect their short phrases, make sense to their words and appreciate their feedback.—Denise

My 19 yr old son said to me yesterday that “I always thought I was right” in a little game that my 11 year old decided we driving to my mom’s house, called “Say something about yourself and how you feel” (the game I mentioned earlier). And I genuinely value his feedback and prayed about it, I so hope that I can listen to him more and allow him to express himself more as well (whether verbally or non-verbally), & that I can learn how to listen to him and understand him as well. Because as a coach and counselor I perhaps may be leading and guiding, directing all the time and not precisely doing much listening in my own family just because I posses a believe that “I know what I’m talking about and I can help” attitude and instead I am sending the wrong message because those are not my intentions. I have a lot to learn and my intentions are for all of us to grow together.

Perhaps I am not allowing them to talk, and they are stressed out, I thought (he wasn’t the only one to talk… it was pretty funny and things got interesting with the youngest one too-but real to me), while they were joking I was analyzing everything,  they are bottling stress and this can hinder their happiness and perhaps their future. I am not trying to shut them off (perhaps you’re not either) but they think that I am Mrs. Know it all and that they are “Team don’t have a voice/chance”. And that is not the case.

There’s is a part in the brain that is not fully develop until age 25, therefore they’re are not fully capable of comprehending and understanding things that someone over the age of 25 would be able to.

They escape, and focus on finding refugee to social media and use it as a source to “relieve stress” from annoying mom and dad. Social media is a stressor for young people today (for generation Z:people born in mid 90’s and 2000). They go to bed late and experience disturbance in sleep, headaches, mood swings, and more stress related symptoms. Social media can be a help or something that causes stress depending on how is being used. Learning how to manage and limit social media can limit stress, but if our young people are using it as way to seek happiness they can end up worse because there is such a diverse of lives that they can end up comparing theirs with and instead of feeling better they can end up worse.

Eating better and staying active, physically socializing and exercising is a great for young people to manage stress, reaching out to seek mental health professionally, counseling, therapy, finding a life coach or mentor can be very helpful to manage and minimize stress as well. Learning coping skills and how to address a situation to manage that stress effectively when it arises will help all of us to manage that stress effectively.

People are really feeling the effects of the environment and we need to be aware of what goes around us, which means that although the environment isn’t getting better we need to work harder at staying better and not letting it affect us. Whatever the issue is people should be active in those issue but understand that in life we can only control our thoughts, our actions and our own feelings—not anyone else’s. Therefore, the way things turn out to be might not always be the way we wish for but we can control the way we react to it.

We need to help our generation Z understand that reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength. Break the stigma. Working today on what we want to see tomorrow is the key to opening the door for the place we want to enter later. We all want to be safe in life, no one wants to be in danger, even those who have thoughts of hurting themselves know that they want to be hugged, and finding that safe haven starts by reaching out and asking for help. A lot of young people mistakingly speak base on thoughts and not true feeling and as adults (if you’re and adult reading this) is our job to step in and help.

If you’re under the age of 25 don’t feel like you’re weak or broken or immature, please know that you’re capable and use this as a guide to understanding yourself and perhaps helping others find a better way to managing stress.

Everyday is a new opportunity (as I always say) to begin again.

Today is the day today we’ve been given another opportunity to live, love, give thanks, love God, yourself, the creations, others, and enjoy life!

As always—thinking of you,

Denise Kilby


©️2018 Denise Kilby Life Coaching & Spiritual Counseling. All right reserved.

25 Movies About Mental Health To Watch

Spiritual Health Brings Mental Health & Mental Health Brings Physical Health

I  am a HUGE mental health advocate and I love the fact that Star Moon took the time to gather/search for movies that speak and help in some way create and bring mental health awareness.

Click on the link and visit the blog and pick some movies to watch this weekend! I’ve watch some myself and some others I will be watching this weekend (I cannot wait!). I will make sure to do with family as mental health awareness is something to share and create with others.

25 Movies About Mental Health To Watch

https://moonstar2016.wordpress.com/2018/11/07/25-movies-about-mental-health-to-watch/

— Read on moonstar2016.wordpress.com/2018/11/07/25-movies-about-mental-health-to-watch/

As always my friends,

I have your best interest at heart, I read, write, study, and create with you in mind!

—Denise Kilby


©️2018 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.

Inner Strength

Push yourself with such force to the surface that your inner strength comes out allowing you to be the best you everyday of your life.

Your thoughts will determine your day, think happy thoughts. Often times our thoughts are drowned by our problems and we become immovable not allowing our strengths to shine (i.e. help someone else not fall victim of low self-talk, give advice, etc.)—we even become selfish (let’s be honest) kind of like “if I don’t have you don’t have” perhaps not consciously thinking but subconsciously which is even worse.

The reason why I speak in general terms is because I know what it is to be at the bottom of the pit, in the lion’s den. Now, the why I don’t lose grip and faith is because I don’t smell like flesh, I know what’s been placed inside me, I know I have the Holy Spirit of God deposited in me and that is my inner strength, therefore I am aware that I can always seek within me to get back up and help others seek the Father above and ask for a deposit.

I know what it is to have nothing and yet had the strength to tell people “you will have it all”, I know the feeling that brings barley having any food in the fridge to feed your kids and the uncertainty of not event knowing when you will be able to fill the fridge again, and again…encouraging people to “not lose hope”.

Life is about that inner strength my friends about never giving up, about fighting for what you believe in about searching within you for the spirit of strength that was deposited in your soul.

I’ve known what it is to be typing an encouraging message from my phone while I have my car loan finance company call me because I am a month behind on my car payment because of my recent work loss due to my Fibromyalgia flares, IBS, Leaky Gut, Severe Migraines, (conditions that have been yet subject to diagnosis, Dr.’s appt/too many test/biopsies etc. too much into? Yes, I am human). Having to fight for unemployment while looking for a job where I can work despite my health conditions, but guess what life goes on and I must face the situation with strength.  rFrom the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven has suffered violence,4 and the violent take it by force. (Matthew 11:12ESV)

I know what it is to have a trouble teenager while I take a course on Adolescents Psychology and concentrate on a major in Marriage and Family Relations, I tell you more I know what it is to have a trouble marriage and find out your husband has been smoking marijuana for ever—or maybe never stopped since you met him…while you’ve been fighting (with him) for your son not to do it.

The health conditions just seem to be growing like the grass on a morning spring—the headaches are accumulating like the snow on a winter storm and the rain won’t cease like April shower.

Where to hide, and where to get strength from, where to go to and where not to go, where do I find the person I am trying to become? Is this all worth it?

Do I keep searching or do I give up now? How do I believe there is a God when all I see is evil right now?

This is the time my friends when we have to seek positivism and hold on to hope, find our inner strength, shut the chaos that’s around us, if we can’t do nothing about the circumstances, we can only go from here, try to inspire this world with our living testimony (unless we want to rot in misery) and fight!

I can consider myself a warrior even when I am lost in tears and I fall flat on my face every time I try and it didn’t work out as planned, I can certainly say I am not a victim I am a VICTOR I survived if I am alive there is a purpose, there’s a reason for me to keep going, there’s more ahead for me, there’s light at the end of this darkness, it’s time to declare and move by bold faith.

We have been under attack from the beginning of time and out war is not with flesh and blood, our war is with spiritual forces that take shape and are acted upon in the humanity of this world. Look around you and identify your oppressor, you may not find one in the physical form, it may just be your illness, your financial situation, your trouble teen, your marriage situation, to mention some—but at the end is all evil forces. Anything that is making you unhappy. Then think about what I just told you and meditate on how you can take back your happiness with violence, with prayer, with gratitude and strength.

Find that inner strength and if you don’t know how, find someone who can help you. Look for ways where you can see beyond the mountain and who can help you understand that you have the power of life and death in your tongue that if you say to that mountain “move, excuse me because here I come (even if you fall-get back up) and you are in my way” that mountain will move as you start taking steps and leaps of faith.

You must seek that inner strength within you, there’s more. You are more!

Trust, believe, achieve!

—Denise Kilby

©️2018 Denise Kilby New Hope Life Coaching & Lay Christian Counseling. All rights reserved.

We Still Have a Chance

We can definitely go back to the talking era and break free from what’s holding us back.

Talking isn’t part of the solution and conversations are too much of a task to even think of, so let’s just fight and argue instead. “Your opinion isn’t smart (in other words), I make more sense (said by attitude not by logical thinking or the heart) that’s insane, ignorant, stupid, I don’t want to talk about it, I’m done, I don’t like making plans, they never happen, dreams don’t come to pass, I don’t care, there’s nothing else to say, that’s where we end, etc.” are some of the words that spouses use with each other nowadays, those are small examples of things lived and said behind close door.

Those are things that children hear and learn; in most cases on a regular basis, disagreement, inconsistency, confusion, disappointment, lack of hope, negativity, misunderstanding, judgment, resentment and much more. All because we live in an era we’re one or both spouses are stuck to a screen and a world that isn’t real and view the real world (their partner-their spouses) as if they’re not real as well. They expect things that are impossible and reject the unexpected (but possible-and beautiful).

In a world where there’s so much hate, suffering, hunger, arguing, disappointment, loneliness, misunderstanding, disagreement and lastly but not least discrimination, the best thing we can do is be the ultimate hero to those we love. It doesn’t take much to be a great example, 90% of the time it takes a lot less than we can even think of. Our children will live an adult life and handle situations base on what they learned at home, that too is also about 90% right. Stop and think, put your heart to it.

You probably think I don’t have children yet, or I don’t want any, this doesn’t apply to me at all. I am here to remind you that you are someone’s child and that you don’t live in this world alone, you live submerged in the midst of billions of living creatures and breathing individuals that give life to yours.

Be the person your spouse would rather converse with, the listener to your neighbor, be the healer to the sick, the soul patch to the broken, the encourager to discouraged, the planner, the solution, the person to come to in search of hope, the peacemaker, the faithful friend, the lover, the willing, the creator of things at home, be the hero to someone. Don’t wait for a text message, don’t apologize with a heart emoji express yourselves verbal loud and clear, voice your opinions with love. Talk in person, hug be the shoulder to lean on the strong hold, not the know it all!

Now, that might seem hard to do, but where there’s love all things are possible. As long as give as much as we can we are doing as much as possible and that my dear should be very self rewarding. Live aware of what you’re doing, make yourself happy while making others happy, don’t lose grip of yourself while caring for those you’ve been chosen to take care of.

Express yourself with words that blows every millennial’s mind, be the baby boomer that every millennial wants to become and create a world everyone wants to make love in, don’t be afraid to exist and live in the times you were born, remember that love doesn’t have an expiration date.

Remember that to care for other’s you have to be spiritually healthy first, a healthy sweet heart will give out sweet love, but a bitter one will eventually ooze a pungent taste.   —dk

#WeAreEqual #Your’reNotLess #ImNotMore

—Denise Kilby

Ps. “You’re beginning is where & I end where you begin”

Sexual Addiction, Are You Ready to Unzip Your Soul?

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Sex addiction is a very delicate subject many people today are unaware of facing any & others are on absolute denial

Being that this is a faith-based blog and counseling site I will be discussing this topic from a Christian perspective, brace yourself and don’t lose hope!

According to the textbook Caring for People God’s Way, Sexual addiction starts with the “fantasy or preoccupation with sexual thought at the top of the cycle” (Clinton, Hart, Ohlschlager (2005). Many people today including believers of the faith, Christians and non-Christians are unaware of how easy it is to become sexually addicted and a larger number live in absolute denial. A lot of sex addicts want God’s supernatural intervention in their lives, in one way or another, but are not willing to surrender because they live in a world who tells them that “it is okay to please oneself”, the problem comes when we stop pleasing God to please ourselves.

       People who have been abuse, whether physically, mentally, sexually (sexually molested), emotionally or in any other form are more likely to become sexually addicted. Also, people who feel a sense of inferiority.

I believe that understanding the meaning of sexual addiction is the first step into understanding how to break free from it, because a lot of people still don’t believe this is an actual condition that involves neurochemicals. A person can become addicted by an initial act of curiosity, or by simply satisfying the bodies sensory feelings—this can create a routine that will eventually create and addictive pattern.

Once a person is too deep into the addiction the person can becomes depress, and satisfaction doesn’t come as easy anymore. It will usually come after a feeling of loneliness and in a lot of cases it will be followed by more emptiness. Which is usually the result of trying to fill a prior void (from the past-or present) that only the Spirit of God can fill, with something that will only bring temporary satisfaction. It is much like being thirsty and trying to fill a cup with water that has the bottom of it cut off over-and-over yet, obtaining the same results. We will never quench our thirst because we are not drinking anything, we are engaging in a wasteful act. Likewise, no matter how many times we engage in the act of sexual intercourse, masturbation or watch pornography on the internet, perhaps go out and rent or buy a prostitute that feeling (that void) will always be there.

Sexual addiction can lead to suicidal attempts

Now, since the person is feeling depressed and at times even suicidal the person begins to look for something that makes them feel better, to achieve the same effect and feed (in a sense) the chemicals that this addiction has created in their brain (Clinton et al., 2005). They go back to do more of what makes them feel good and provides them with the temporary medicine for their depression, serotonin. “Such a crisis will make one exquisitely aware of hopelessness and depression. Hopefully, it will also dawn on the addict that he/she is powerless and that a Higher Power alone can and will be there in that moment” (Healthyplace.com 2018).

With time the addiction begins to progress, and the way to deal with this is to ignore it or to change it. However, they start feeling lonelier, become angry, and the consequences can be terrible. Because where there is sexual immorality there is a separation from the Spirit of God. So, what is done initially to fill a void is now creating a deeper one, the whole cup is breaking, and the water is spilling all over the place.

Thankfully to all no one has died through submersion and inhalation that comes from a water that spills from a cup

Being aware of sexual problems can help us identify whether we have some or not, I say some because they vary. At one end of the spectrum are those who simply fantasize and masturbate. On the other end are those who commit sexual crimes.

When a person is emotionally hurt that person usually looks for ways to feel better and in most cases as humans who live in the flesh we like to do things to make ourselves feel better. “Abuse leaves addicts lonely, angry, frightened, and confused”(Clinton et al., 2005). We tend to say everyone is hurting me, everyone has hurt me, everyone will hurt me, I might as well love myself and do what makes me feel good, and this way I don’t have to worry about anyone else. Even when cheating on a spouse people can tend to think of themselves as total victims alone in the world.

Unfortunately doing these things on our own can lead us astray from the will of God and into the hands of the enemy, we begin to forget our purpose, our calling and who we are in Christ. Fortunately, there’s grace and hope for those who have gone astray, if they repent and seek the help they need and are willing to try it again with Christ. “For you were continually straying like sheep, but now you have returned to the Shepherd and Guardian of your souls.” (1 Peter 2:25)

References

Clinton, T., Hart, A., & Ohlschlager, G. (2005). Caring for people God’s way: personal and emotional issues, addictions, grief, and trauma. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson.

Depression and Sex Addiction: The Moment Between the Trapezes https://www.healthyplace.com/sex/sex-and-depression/depression-and-sex-addiction-the-moment-between-the-trapezes

If you or anyone you know is suffering of sexual addiction I encourage you to seek help and become free this is a link to a national and confidential help line https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline If you are a victim of sexual abuse I know anyone who is a victim of sexual abuse I exhort you to call the local authorities immediately and become a free person!

The following link is Jace Downey’s testimonial a very brave woman who shares her sexual addiction story with the world. Everything started when she was just 5 years of age https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/5739355/sex-addiction-almost-killed-me-woman-dangerous-hookups-suicide/

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As always with your best interest at heart and mind,

—Denise Kilby #letsconnect

You’re more than the giant you’re facing!

Life can be challenging and the obstacles may seem higher than they truly are, the waters seem to rise and it seems to be no ways out, at times…. Do you feel like your current situation is more than you can handle? If so, let me remind you, there’s always something or someone to remind us that, “we are more”. Allow me to remind you! Some answers to your many questions can be within yourself, if you need help reaching them – let’s connect -, some others may be within your finger tips – type away -, you just have to reach to God, He’s already there, out to someone, or to me I’m already here.

In order for some things to fall into place, other things need to move out of place…stay connected, find the rhythm within you -Dk

There’s an old saying that goes “Easier said than done”, that is still to this day true, but I’m a firm believer that it gets easier once we start doing… to me is more like “Easier when you start getting things done” -Dk

Life gets lighter when you have some help. Stay connected to what is to come, don’t lose hope, reach out, and let me show you that you’re more than the giant you’re facing!

Stay Blessed,

  Denise Kilby