A little about this picture and myself…
It was about 6:54 am and I was at work just starting my shift about two days ago leaving my hair down from a bun. Before before heading back to the crowd of youth I care for and co-workers looking what I felt like a “mess” since there’s no mirrors in the office I decided to use my cell phone camera as a mirror because I don’t take selfies anymore (hmm, can this mean I lost some self confidence? … I may have to do some #selfcheck on it).
However, With the years I have learned to love my hair literally despite the criticisms of a lot of people (close friends, family members and myself) once I surpassed those critics which is usually the hardest (at least myself I learned not to care.
Okay back to the story… so I had just let my hair down and I thought 💭 “eh I’d let it finish drying ‘it looks good’ and smiled snapped the selfie”… my thought process was the following:
“Don’t ever forget to smile ever when no one is watching, remember to go out there and smile at others chances are that 99% of them will smile back at you”.
Subconsciously as a defense mechanism, perhaps I always try to think that even if we don’t look our best when we smile we end up representing ourselves better and end up feeling better afterwards as well, giving us a chance to obtain our prior set goals.
With the years I’ve notice that as I learned to love my hair, my hair is very soft and it always smells very good, all I need to do to acquired some waves and place it in a bun and it looks like I used a curling tool. I don’t use hair gel (dislike it with my entire soul) don’t use hair spray either.
My hair texture has changed dramatically in the past 7 years or so I would say and from when I was a child (oh Gosh I wish I had a before and after of the Afro). I have noticed that it doesn’t curl how I desire but I’ve learned to love this way. Thus, I do NOT appreciate people telling me “I can tell you never do anything to it” with a sarcastic tone, or “I can tell you’re happy cause you did your hair today” when I straightened it.” Like really… really…ughz.
The way I wear my hair doesn’t define me… it really doesn’t. I am the most introverted and unpredictable individual you may get to know and I am totally fine being this way. I think I still can’t even define myself; I am constantly learning and evolving. I believe this is a norm for everyone who majors in psychology and we are okay with with. I am okay with growing everyday.
As a matter of fact wearing my hair like I have it on this on this image is the way I feel closest to myself, I like to be natural, to the point that I don’t like to filter my images because I wnat everyone to get to see me as I am. But if I want my hair straighter, and my images black and white and highly pigmented I will do so and be happy with it as well.
Let’s learn how to communicate who we are in a healthy way readers, and understand that we are all different and beautiful in our own ways. Make sure to check on those who you say you love and and ask those you don’t know if they’re okay when you don’t see a smile on their face, remember not everyone knows how to smile but smiles are contagious. Check on everyone often.
We are all different, but all deserve to be happy!
So on the image you saw I am posting super, mega close up selfie 🤳🏽 with my hair the way I love it the most, just air dry with gray hair being me 100% trying to remind you to be you 100% and to never forget to smile. Smiles are contagious indeed. Take the challenge snap a image just how you are with your most genuine smile and tag my intagram @you.are.more_
Stop doing whatever you’re doing and smile for 3 seconds and pay attention to how well you’ll feel after, because smiling releases neurotransmitters called endorphins that are released when you smile. These are triggered by the movements of the muscles in your face, which is interpreted by your brain, which in turn releases these chemicals. Endorphins are responsible for making us feel happy, and they also help lower stress levels.
So let’s make those muscles in your face stronger and when someone tells you something that makes no sense to them but total sense to you SMILE …me “you never do your hair and you always look crazy” I smile because smiling makes me happy
Be you, be naturally unique you are more, you are blessed to be a blessing to others here I am no make up, no filter no problem!
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