Are You Depending On Others to Feel Independent?

Make the time count and don’t count on others to make your time worth the while…

Are you an independent individual or are you co-depending on others to help you be ‘independent’? That simply means you’re not dependent at all and co-dependency is a serious problem.

In this world you can choose to follow someone else’s trails or avoid the path and create our own, we can lean and have a need to be needed or be confident. -Denise K.


I don’t see anything wrong with receiving help from others (when needed), but I do see a lot of specious with depending on another person to accomplish things or to complete simple tasks that don’t require a third person to get done.

Don’t devalue yourself by waiting for someone else to help you be self-reliance. Can that even be a thing Denise? (you may be asking right now) well yes, indeed.

If you’re constantly counting on other people to help you get things done and blaming them for not accomplishing your goals or for not helping you get a task done, you’re involving a third person where only one (you) should be involved. We don’t need anyone to wake us up in the morning, not even an alarm clock because even if we wake up late (unless where dead) we will simultaneously get woken up on our own. We abate when we wait on others to get things done, and at the same time take from them.

We take their time, and energy. If you’re blaming others for not being able to do something that was entirely UNDER your control, you need to re-examine yourself and reconnect with the inner you.

Either you’re trapped on a narcissistic personality disorder and you haven’t noticed or you’re confined by low self-esteem and or depression which causes you to depend on another human being  to help you accomplish things, feel fulfilled, able, understood, worthy, and then call yourself ‘independent’.

I am sorry if this is bothersome, and you feel like you can’t bear, but if you’re not getting it done on your own and your counting on another person to help you do things that don’t require of much effort and or help you’re just withdrawing from that person and yourself.

You’re not alone and you’re not out of hopes. It is never too late to begin again, tomorrow is another day  and whether the sun shines or the clouds overtake the skies of is God’s will you will be alive.

That will be called purpose and a new opportunity to start all over again.

What are you doing with your free time? Are you employing yourself or waiting for someone to come and tell you how to get things done or what to do next? Are you using your time wisely and acquiring knowledge, or are you waiting on someone else to come so you can try to show them what you can do?

Be wise while you can, humble in today, and hopeful for a tomorrow -Denise K




Published by Denise Kilby

Along the path of my life I have focused on growing as an individual, studying and learning on how to help others and expanding my view of life. I studied Criminal Psychology and Christian Counseling concentrating in marriage and Family Relations at Liberty University Online. I am a Fibromyalgia Fighter who has focused on living the best that I can every day of my life, my goal is to inspired others to live their lives to their fullest God given potential. In life we are given one body, one brain, and one flesh- with many muscles and we can't concentrate in the ones that hurt and don't work on one single day, we have to think on how we can make them stronger with the ones that do operate well. Staying focus and moving while we can is my key to happiness, pausing when my heart tells me to and thinking outside my head to maintain a healthy spiritual, mental, and fitness balance that brings me peace & provides physical healing. I am a mother of three blessings; 2 boys and a girl, wife, and daughter of God, passionate about people and the way the brain works. Who is always looking for ways to make life easier and helping individuals see the truth that lies within them, I know there’s more for everyone, and that we are far more than whatever our current circumstances may be, remembering that they might determine our situations but don't predict our future. I enjoy working with people and assisting individuals in many different areas, whatever it takes to make someone’s life better and meeting their professional needs. “Go as high as you can, there’s a world that needs your help” - Denise Kilby

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